In 2019, I joined the Indian Air Force.
I was earning around ₹60,000 a month. I had a highly respected job, a secure life, and honestly, I had a lot of things going for me on paper.
But there was one part of my life I had absolutely no idea how to handle.
Women.
I didn't know how to talk to a girl I liked. I didn't know how to create attraction. I didn't know how to take things forward without making it painfully awkward.
And whenever I tried, it usually went the exact same way.
I'd message a girl. She'd ignore me. Or ghost me. And even if I somehow managed to attract a girl, I had no idea how to maintain that attraction. Eventually, things would just fall apart.
This became a pattern. Different girls. Different situations. Same result.
At some point, I realised that maybe I wasn't just "unlucky" with women.
Maybe I simply didn't know what I was doing.
The India Problem
So I started learning.
I watched hundreds of YouTube videos. I bought courses from other creators. I consumed a ridiculous amount of content, but most of it was from foreign creators.
I learned how to text. How to start conversations. How to talk to a girl on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, and Instagram. How to take things from texting to a date.
And slowly, things started changing. But then I discovered another problem.
A lot of the advice I was consuming was created for a completely different dating environment. It didn't translate.
India is different.
Indian men date differently. Indian women date differently. The social dynamics, the expectations, the family pressure, and the relationship culture are fundamentally different.
I had to figure out what actually worked here.
And I did that the only way I knew how: Trial and error. A lot of it.
Eventually, I figured out how to move a conversation from texting to an actual date in a few days instead of endlessly chatting. I realized I had been making dating far more complicated in my head than it actually needed to be.
The Hard Lessons
But getting the date wasn't the only thing I struggled with.
I had been friend-zoned. I didn't know how to lead an interaction. I didn't know how to maintain my masculine frame. I didn't know how to tell whether a woman genuinely liked me or whether I was just wasting my time hoping she would eventually choose me.
These were things I had to learn the hard way.
Through mistakes. Through failed relationships. Through rejection. Through situations where I thought everything was going perfectly, only to watch it crumble.
But every failure taught me something.
Eventually, I got to a point where I understood attraction differently. I understood how to create it, how to maintain it, and how to recognise when a woman is genuinely interested.
I learned how to stop chasing when the interest isn't there. How to lead a relationship instead of constantly seeking validation.
Most importantly, I learned how to become the kind of man who doesn't have to constantly wonder, "Does she actually want me?"
The Paradigm Shift
And then something happened that made all the trial and error worth it.
I met a girl I genuinely wanted in my life.
Not just someone I wanted to impress. Not just someone I wanted to sleep with. Someone I could actually see myself building a life with.
We dated for around six or seven months. Eventually, I told her that I was serious about her and wanted something long-term.
One thing led to another. And today, she's my wife.
Why I Coach
Looking back, that's probably the biggest reason I do what I do today.
Because I know exactly what it feels like to be the guy who has everything going for him on paper... but still feels completely lost when it comes to women.
I know what it's like to constantly overthink a text. To wonder why she suddenly became distant. To get stuck in the friend zone. To chase someone who isn't choosing you.
And I also know what it feels like when things finally start making sense.
That's why I left the military to become a full-time men's dating psychology coach.
Today, I help Indian men understand attraction, dating, and relationships in a way that actually makes sense for their lives. I don't believe you're doomed just because you've had bad experiences. And I don't believe you need some magic line, manipulation technique, or red-pill hack.
Sometimes, you simply need someone who has already made the mistakes you're making now to show you what you're missing.
If you're confused about women, constantly getting rejected, stuck in the friend zone, or simply unable to find the kind of relationship you actually want...
I've been there. I was that guy.
And if I could go from not even knowing how to talk to a girl to finding the woman I wanted to spend my life with, you can change your situation too.